Many people are afraid of being alone, but the fact is, the more we are afraid of something the more we drive ourself on that direction.
Because fear took a lot of attention.
We can either not to fear ( give zero attention ) or looking for the fear, doing everything to facilitate its coming, and end up being alone and lonely. ( The forced confrontation )
This applies not only on loneliness but also on other things.
Until two years ago I finally overcame that. It was difficult, but let’s be reasonable, we need to eat to sleep and to work, it let less than half of our life to build connections, and even when we have connections, it’s good to realise that as genuine cares and kindness, not babysitting.
Whatever situation, the feeling of loneliness is something we need to face on and deal with.
We can make this feeling confortable.
It feels good when we limit the needs from outside world, the appreciation the validation from outside world. We don’t have to ask anyone else to know if we are good enough smart enough or clever enough etc… It feels good when we understand actually we can trust many people, trust and love is not difficult to find, sometimes it’s us who’s difficult to avoid them coming.
The best way to overcome loneliness is the realisation of us never being alone. I feel myself being accompanied by many living things around me, the environment ( the eco system ) the people, I don’t feel alone and the connection is easy to be build. Let’s be honest that deep and sustainable connection needs time, even without those things you can build a deep connection within yourself.
Trusting people is the best thing not to feel alone. Even it’s very risky. The more you trust the less you feel alone. My friend told me that is naïveté.
Being naive this very dangerous, however you don’t have to trust everyone, but the trust is something magic, it can remove the walls and from there, the connections happen.
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